Deliberate UnemploymentI have completed 4 months of 'deliberate unemployment'. When I tell people that I am currently not working, they usually respond with concern. They are often relieved when I share that I was not fired from my workplace, but I made a deliberate decision to quit my job and take some time to recuperate. While majority of the people are nice and sweet, most times I can't tell the fake concern from the true ones. There are folks who have taken pleasure in their snide remarks.
Many people responded with envy too. I told them they could do the same if they want to. They said it's easy for me because I don't have children and I could easily reach my hand out to my husband's pocket for cash. The truth is, like any married female who holds firm to her feminist roots, I have not taken a cent from my husband and I continue to pay my share of the household bills and mortgage. I was not silly to make the decision to leave a cushy salary without budgeting in advance how long I could hold out without a steady income.
They would also give recommendations on how I should lead my life each day. And since I do not have a household helper (a.k.a. maid), they decided that I should be keeping my house in great shape since I had 'nothing else better to do'. My parents educated me that you are responsible for your own mess. After 7 years of marriage, I know better than to mess around with Hubby's mess. If you do not wish for him to ask you where is every single item of his, leave it to him to organize his own stuff, even though it may take... quite some time. I tried organizing our Clementi home during our first few years of marriage, it didn't work out that well. I gave up.
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